Being children of separated parents is one thing to adults. And you're never ready to do so.
First of all we must address the period of transition from the family to disintegrate. In that parents are never resolved: I go, I'll be back. I'm going but only three nights a week. I do not go! Come on, I go. I'm going but I love the other parent (mother or father is).
The thing is absurd and family gatherings where adults to ask their children if they leave. I've heard so many stories like that. And I can not imagine that response may be desired by their children exasperated by ' indecision.
One of the children is to console the parents. If parents do not have the courage to ask to be consoled then become the children are their consolation. So the children are morally obliged to do well in school. A does not cause problems. To be independent. And strong.
Another task of the children is to learn very quickly to become mediators . What the parents say is blunt and revised under the lens of impartiality. Questions or concerns regarding the other parent to be given answers very well designed, charming, calm and contain half-truths. A complete opening is not possible. It is not credible. We must learn to keep secrets, especially those who do not want to know. Over time
then you begin to feel envy and nostalgia in listening to friends who have dinner or go on holiday with his parents. Who have a family at Christmas, not two. And the birthday. And in a lot of other things.
For children of divorce is finally the most difficult question: is it possible to build a family if you do not have a concrete example (and solid) by? You can really learn from the mistakes of others?
I would say to all those who are fortunate enough to have a united family of realize how fortunate they .
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